Hello Lovelies

Are you feeling powerful?

What does power mean to you and what are some of the ways you have experienced power in your life?

This is the theme we will be exploring this month and I am looking forward to diving deeper into this subject with you.

Power is a word used to generally describe the ability to control and influence. Often our default belief systems around power lie with an expression of ‘external power’. The ‘survival of the fittest’ has its roots in the concept that the most ‘evolved’ being able to have control or power over our destiny and as a human race we are excessively focused on external power. External power is very much based on the physical world, what can be experienced through our senses and has resulted in structures that are patriarchal, classist, racist etc.

External power often means gaining power at the expense of others. We believe that for us to rise, and be strong in our lives, others must fall or lose. This is especially problematic for when we feel we lack the resources (time, money, access, knowledge, role models, champions) that support the growth of external power but we are generally uncomfortable about putting our needs and ourselves out there at the expense of others.

The good news is that we don’t have to rely on external power to be fully in our power. There is another way. And that is when we go within and tap into our own internal power, our breath. If external power is everything that is built around us, our internal or authentic power is about everything we hold and perceive about ourselves, and our heart. It’s those moments where we feel we can stand still in the centre and make choices and decisions that are aligned with our needs and journey.

External power feeds the ego. Internal power feeds the soul. It’s those moments when we allow ourselves to just be ourselves, not racing to meet external milestones, not seeking external validation, it’s finding a moment to listen to the quiet voices inside that are always right. It’s learning to trust our judgement, gravitate and be in our flow, it’s being kind, compassionate and respectful not just to others but also ourselves. It’s when we live and speak with authenticity and trust

When we are focused on external power, our only measure of success is validation and approval from others. And then when we place our sense of self-worth in the hands of others, we give away our power.

Here’s the small print – accessing our internal power is lifelong work, we need to connect ourselves to the charging station every day. If you struggle to feel empowered in your own life, you are definitely not alone. Women are amazing at empowering other women (and thank heavens for this) and all of us will have some women to thank for the roles they have played in our own lives. But we can’t just depend on them. We have to start with empowering ourselves. We have to get out of our own ways and take responsibility for our ives. We have to start listening to the stories we are telling ourselves that are keeping us stuck, we have to commit to learning the difference between scarcity living and wholehearted living; it means limiting the negative self chatter, not making decisions based on fear of judgement and not sabotaging our own success.

  • What does being in your power/being fully empowered look like to you?
  • Where in your life do you feel ‘in your power’?
  • Are there any areas in your life that you feel a lack of power?
  • What would help you feel more empowered in these areas
  • Or Can you think of people who appear fully in their power to you?
  • What characteristics do they embody?
  • How might you channel some of those characteristics or energies of the people you admire?
  • What would you like to invite in more of? What’s stopping you?
  • How have you suppressed your own power, radiance, or truth and how can you be more bold?
  • What is something you are really good at, Regardless of how big or small it seems?
  • List 3 things that you love and cherish about yourself?
  • List 1 more wonderful thing about yourself?

‘Some women fear the fire. Some women simply become it’. R. H Sin

For the rebels and the misfits, the black sheep and the outsiders.

For the refugees, the orphans, the scapegoats and the weirdos.

For the uprooted, the abandoned, the shunned and the invisible one.

May you recognise with increasing vividness that you know what you know.

May you give up your allegiances to self-doubt, meekness and hesitation.

May you be willing to be unlikeable and in the process utterly loved.

May you be impervious to the wrongful projections of others and may you deliver your disagreement with precision and grace.

May you see with consummate clarity of nature moving through you that your voice is not only necessary but desperately needed to sing us out of this muddle.

May you feel shored up, supported, entwined and reassured as your offer yourself and your gifts to the world.

May you know for certain that even as you stand by yourself, you are not alone.